As my regular readers are aware, I discuss shame quite a bit on this blog. It is a topic of interest, not only because of personal history, but also through overcoming it, I see how it affects and negatively impacts both individuals and the broader society. I see it obviously present and a motivating force behind the “woke” movement as well as in fundamentalist or traditionalist religious groups. This makes sense as groups on the extreme ends of the political spectrum will naturally be comprised of a minority of the population. As such, shame is an effective means to convert people of a more moderate bent to buy into their agenda because shame is a mean of making another person suffer psychologically for not holding the “right” view or holding the “right” belief. It is this manipulative quality of shame that should give anyone pause. It seems to me that shame is used to get people in line and to control them so that they are more easily governed. This would suggest that the feeling of shame is more a “rendering unto Caesar” than a “rendering unto God.”
Orthosphere author Bonald wrote an interesting blogpiece recently entitled “Ken Burns’ dangerous game” wherein he discusses Mr. Burns’ documentary on the Holocaust. In a comment he asked me to define shame as I see it. Interestingly, his blogpiece and the ensuing comments highlight many personality traits that are essential to the spirit of shame. And when a person exhibits these personality traits one might say that person is possessed by the spirit of shame. Therefore, in an attempt to more clearly define shame as I see it, I think it would be useful to use Bonald’s blogpiece as a case study.
Bonald begins by saying:
Ken Burns has a new documentary about how America didn’t do enough to prevent the Holocaust… The main intent is to affect how Americans think about their past. Currently, the WWII era is a matter of pride to Americans, the only matter of pride Americans have been allowed to retain… In feudal societies, one is encouraged to take pride in being a good vassal, so similarly one might think that if Americans’ one point of pride is how well they once served Jewish interests, our cultural overlords should be satisfied with that. However, they have found that controlling white gentiles through shame has been spectacularly effective so far, and in any case breaking the spirits of white gentiles seems to be something they are compelled to do for its own sake.
Here we see that Bonald acknowledges that the “woke” (who’s agenda Bonald believes Ken Burns is serving) use shame as a means of controlling “white gentiles” and breaking their spirits. It is interesting, however, that he sees this use of shame as negative but the Orthosphere writers, generally speaking, do not see the religious right’s or traditional religion’s adherents use of shame as negative. It seems that shame is only negative (in their minds) if it attempts to control or correct man to act according to a “bad” agenda. They do not agree with the woke agenda and therefore see it’s use of shame to control “white gentiles” is unjustified. However, (presumably) traditional use of shame in the form of original sin (for example) is absolutely justified.
Regardless of its use, it is plain to see that shame is used to control the minds of men. Bonald and his brethren adhere to a traditionalist worldview where all authority is considered a positive and ultimately derived from God. As such, the use of shame to enforce a bending of the knee to authority is a proper way of enforcing correct behavior.
In a comment Orthosphere author JMSmith writes:
I’ve never understood Winston’s oft-repeated assertion that shame is ipso facto evil. In fact, it seems to me that shame is the first step in the two steps of Christian repentance. What else am I to feel when I become conscious of my own sinfulness? Well, I know, the modern answer is that I should feel resentment at being shamed, but I can’t see how that option is open for Christians. The whole Christian system is built on the reality of sin and thus on the justice and necessity of shame.
JMSmith makes an important point when he says, “the whole Christian system is built on the reality of sin and thus on the justice and necessity of shame.” It is this intrinsic, essential connection between shame and the Christian ethic that makes my questioning of shame incomprehensible to him and other Orthosphere contributors. For to reject shame would be to reject Christianity (in their minds) which is a step they are unwilling to take. I understand. But it reminds me of a description of the Newspeak term “Crimestop” in Orwell’s 1984:
Crimestop means the faculty of stopping short, as though by instinct, at the threshold of any dangerous thought. It includes the power of not grasping analogies, of failing to perceive logical errors, of misunderstanding the simplest arguments if they are inimical to Ingsoc, and of being bored or repelled by any train of thought which is capable of leading in a heretical direction. Crimestop, in short, means protective stupidity.
George Orwell, 1984, Signet Classic, New York, 1950. 174-175 p.
In another comment, T. Morris writes:
… your constant (obsessive) harangues about the abject evil of shaming per se is nonsensical to us. The much vaunted SPLC take a similar tac. It’s stupid beyond belief, when you boil it all down.
I make reference to JMSmith and T.Morris because they both exhibit character traits commonly associate with one who is possessed by the spirit of shame. With JMSmith it is the Crimestop mentality of seeming to not see the true nature of shame because it is aligned with his accepted morality. Similarly, with T.Morris it is the angry lashing out that sometimes occurs when shame or whatever shame is protecting is questioned. There are many other character traits associated with shame but they all tend to be about hiding or protecting something. It is no coincidence that before Adam and Eve experienced shame they were naked but once shame overtook them, they made fig leaf coverings and hid from God. (See Genesis 2:25 and 3:7-10). All this is to say, shame is more complicated than simply feeling bad for not acting properly. It comes with a whole host of dysfunctional personality traits that can then be passed on to other people. In my mind it is better to do good from the heart rather than to escape punishment but obviously, not everyone sees it that way. And that too is fine. I do not write about shame and engage in conversations with other people on the subject to change minds on the subject. If that happens, so much the better but that is not my primary aim. My aim is to ponder the nature of shame and to understand it better. Engaging with other people (especially those with opposing viewpoints) offers insight I would not otherwise receive and for that I am grateful.
What are the lessons this case study and what definition of shame can we offer based upon it? It is a complicated (as I have endeavored to describe), but I will take a stab at it. Let us say:
Shame is a form of psychological suffering that one person inflicts upon another or a person inflicts upon himself to force him to act according to standards or beliefs that he would not otherwise act in accordance with.