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The Cult of Shame, Guilt and Judgmentalism

The tradionalists (or whatever they want to call themselves) believe that morality is inextricably connected to shame and guilt. As such, judgmentalism is inextricably connected to their world view. This is because judgementalism has the power to make other people feel shame and guilt. This is the same technique employed by the woke to manipulate people (only for different offences). Both traditionalists and woke are coreligionists in the cult of shame, guilt and judgmentalism. The truth is morality exists independent of these things.

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A Little Secret about Feeling Judged

I have said it before, but it bears repeating, the only person judging you is you. Other people may judge you, but their judgment can only impact you if you allow it, agree to it and believe in it. When you do this, you adopt their judgement as your own. But it is still you judging yourself.

We have all experienced embarrassing situations. Maybe you have given a speech and forgotten what you wanted to say. You see the audience looking at you and you think, “They must think I am a terrible speaker.” Or perhaps you absentmindedly rear end another car when driving. The person whose car you rear ended gets out of their car and approaches you with an angry look on their face and you feel their judgement unmistakably. In both situations you feel the other people judging you, however, in both situations you have made the choice to feel judged. Therefore, in both situations you are the one judging yourself.

There is an assumption made that the person judging you is sending the feeling of being judged into your body against your will. Perhaps that is what that person wants you to think because when you feel judged you tend to want to defer to the judging person’s judgement. When you do this they can manipulate you. It is important to see, however, that on some psychological or spiritual level, you chose to feel judged, perhaps because you felt you did something wrong and wanted to appease the person you feel to be judging you. When you do this, that person (if perceptive) can perceive your vulnerability and is then in a position to take advantage of it. But, you chose to feel judged. How else could it have happened?

Now, with this realization comes a choice: Should you or should you not feel judged? Feeling judged is a negative psychological state and feels uncomfortable. It can be seen as a form of self-punishment. When you feel judged you want to feel bad partly to atone for what you did wrong, but also to broadcast to the person you feel to be judging you (something like) you know you did something wrong, are sorry for it, and wish to do better in the future.

Let us look at thee two examples (forgetting your speech and rear ending another car). Both situations were accidents and you have no intentional moral fault. If you could go back in time and change those events (I suspect) you would gladly do that. Accordingly, feeling judged accomplishes nothing in this respect. Nor is it guaranteed that feeling judged will prevent you from making the same mistake again. Many times the feeling of being judged is so uncomfortable that it causes the person feeling judged to simply avoid those situations in the future and thus ensures the person feeling judged does not learn from his mistake. It is learning from the mistake that is important. If you aim to do that then there is no need to feel judged.

Feeling judged is an abdication of sovereignty out of fear to the person you feel to be judging you. Perhaps this is what that person actually desires which is (perhaps) why they wanted you to feel judged in the first place. The previous sentence is laden with “perhaps” because it is entirely possible that the person you feel is judging you might not be judging you. My use of “perhaps” is also to demonstrate that this is all in your head to begin with. Whether or not the other person is judging you is all in your head. And if it is in your head, it has to be your choice whether to feel judged or to not feel judged.

Now, you might think that if you do not feel judged you are committing a sin or moral offence. You might think that there is virtue in feeling judged or that it is the price you pay to live in a society, it is how we all get along and that it is not up to you to determine what is right and wrong. But none of this is true. There is a delusion inherent in this line of thinking that you cannot be the one deciding what is right and wrong because these things exist independent of you. But even if they do exist independent of you, you still must be the one to decide whether to accept and believe its truth. There is no one else making these decisions. It is just you in there. So even if someone outside your mind tells you what is right and wrong, or you read it in a book, or see it in a movie, or hear it from your priest or minister, or read it on a blog, you must decide whether to adopt it or reject it as true.

It really is up to you and it always has been. What is more, you can handle this burden. I know this because you have been handling this burden since the day you were born. You have only been unaware of this fact or perhaps you have been pretending that you were unaware of it.

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